Today is the day we should all be thanking our mothers for all they’ve done, all the sacrifices, all the blood, sweat and tears….
For most they can have a mom or mother figure to thank. I am happy to say that I consider myself to have no mother. Mine was never a mother to me. I never felt the connection and she was and is a horrible person. But, I have women that I look up to, who I admire and observe for their strength, guidance, and ability to love beyond measure. Their ability to be not only be a mom but a best friend, a rock, and to love their children unconditionally is more than enough to know that I am a better person for having a horrible birth mother and cutting ties when I did.
I’ve been blessed to have some amazing women in my life who helped me along the way. Most recently my landlady, who I knew as a child but was closer to her husband, who I considered a father figure. She’s done more for me in the past few months than my mother ever did. She’s welcomed me into her rental home and given me the opportunity to finally be, dare I say it, H-A-P-P-Y. She’s helped me find who I really am, who I can be, who I want to be. Cheesy? Yes, but it’s so true. She’s helped me to see that I am a strong person, that I am capable of happiness without the drama, without anyone dragging me down. She’s helped me to see that although I doubt myself at times when it comes to being a parent, that I am doing a good job. She cares about me and is proud of me and that’s really all anyone wants from their parent, well all I need anyway.
My daughter is one amazing little girl, growing up way too fast for this momma’s heart to be okay with. But every single day, I am thankful that just over 14 years ago she made me a mom. It was scary, terrifying at times, but I would not trade the past 14 years of my life for anything. Having had a horrible birth mom has made me see the importance of being a great mom. I am not sure I am a great mom but I try. And my purpose in life is to make sure there’s not a day that goes by that my daughter doubts how important she is to me, how amazing she is and how she can do anything she sets her beautiful heart on.
Being a mom is not easy. Being a mom of children that are not biologically yours must be a very difficult feat. But I am extremely thankful that my daughter has one of the most amazing women as her stepmom. This woman has been in Erica’s life nearly since day 1 and although at first it was difficult for me, I cannot think of a better person to be her second mom. For someone to invest their time, love, patience, and life into my little girl, without hesitation, that is the best Mother’s Day gift I could ask for. Thank you Hanna for being the amazing mom you are to my little girl. I can never thank you enough or repay you for the role you play in her life. I am very lucky indeed.
All mushy-ness aside, today is a good day. Tell your mom you love her and thank her for all she’s done for you. Know you do more for her by being her child than she could ever tell you. Love is good.